Do you find yourself repeating negative habits and behaviors when it comes to food, weight and dieting?
Do you find you set an intention to get healthy and by the end of the day or week you always “do yourself in”?
This is your self-sabotage showing up. Self-sabotage is usually rooted in lack of self-esteem and self-worth. If you want to stop self-sabotage, you first need to understand where it comes from.
What is self-sabotage?
Self-sabotage is any behavior, thought, emotion or action that holds you back from getting what you consciously want. Self-sabotage is the conflict that exists between conscious desires and unconscious wants that manifest in self-limiting patterns of behavior.
All of us at some point sabotage ourselves. We say we want something and then we do the opposite that prevents us from getting what we want. Not only does self-sabotage prevent you from getting what you want but its also a safety mechanism from disappointment. This safety mechanism keeps you in your comfort zone.
We sabotage ourselves usually because we have trouble mastering our emotions. So if you are an emotional eater, you use food as a coping mechanism to deal with your emotions.
What does self-sabotage look like?
- Succumbing to fear of failure.
- Not taking action if we think we can’t do it perfectly.
- Not planning ahead.
- Not considering the consequences of your actions.
- Incessant worrying.
- Allowing your inner critic to take charge.
- Always complaining or being the victim.
- Focusing on whats not working vs what is.
- Always making excuses.
These are just some examples. Does any of this sound like you???
Can you overcome self-sabotage? The answer is YES!!
Here are 5 steps you can take to stop self-sabotage:
1) Identify the self-sabotaging behaviors that keeps you stuck. Pinpoint the triggers of this behavior.
2) Recreate your self-sabotage Pattern. When you are clear on step 1, you can consciously recreate the self-sabotaging pattern. Once you have a clear understanding,
you can move to step 3.
3) Identify a healthy replacement behavior. Stay connected to your big WHY during this step. This will reinforce why you want to do this new healthy behavior.
4) Practice the new behavior until its your new habit. You HAVE TO BE CONSISTENT when practicing this new behavior. You can’t do it for a short period of time and think it’s going to stick. COMMIT to the new behavior.
5) BELIEVE that you can change this and manage your expectations around the change. Be kind and patient with yourself. Don’t judge yourself when trying to stop the self-sabotage. Remember it’s one step at a time one day at a time.
I believe in you! If you’re ready to stop self-sabotage for good, schedule your free call with me now.
